She often sneaks into my thoughts and never utters a word. I will draw her till she speaks.
Patterns and clarity
Black and white
The older I grow, the more complex life seems to get. The grey areas also seem to grow larger with each passing year.
“A child is no reason to marry someone.”
I heard these words years ago from the ex-boyfriend of a childhood friend. They were our teenage couple goals. Then she became pregnant and he immediately withdrew his affections. I ran into him at a house party a few years later where he uttered those words to me.
Gone are the days when a man was marched down the aisle to marry the woman he had impregnated. Courts have supplanted the traditional roles of religion and the family, and couples can now rely on courts to settle paternity and child support disputes. Marriage laws have been enacted to regulate marriage and the institution has thus been spared loveless gunpoint unions.
Unfortunately, the problems bedeviling marriage seem to be more complicated than envisaged by our laws and this calls for a national conversation.
When will we address the rising cases of domestic violence and murder-suicides in families? Why do these tragic events persist despite the seemingly progressive laws that have recently been passed in the country?
Make an effort to peel away the layers and maybe you’ll uncover the treasure that’s hidden underneath.